This product would be great for a those who enjoy just a touch of buzz on their clitoris in helping to reach a  sublime climax. It has several levels with a simple touch button that activates and controls the power desired, holding the button down increases the intensity. NO wires or on/off switches that turn on accidentally. The size is perfect for hiding discreetly in your handbag inside zipper pocket making it perfect for that little something needed at any hour your passion becomes spontaneous.

Many women adore the new more feminine and splashy sleek design that Cal Exotics specializes in. A company that produces the best in adult novelties that go the distance in quality and function.  So quiet the mini bullet can be put in place and no one would know it’s there, who could not love this little gem of a vibrator? It’s simple, durable, waterproof and ready at the touch of an eager awaiting finger!

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Thank you Cal Exotics for sharing this video. A topic of discussion that has been in the making and long overdue, bringing help to millions of woman not ready to throw in the towel with regards to their sexuality.

From my experience once the “changes” (menopause) have begun there is no stopping them whether you like it or not. Prior to any little hormonal flickerings of dissipation before I turned 50 years of age I was a sex kitten of highest magnitude. In my mid 40’s there was an alarm going off that I wasn’t aware of till everything became clear post menopause. My hormones raged for a time for anything sexual I couldn’t get enough at around 43 years. My cycles were unpredictable after decades of steady, tried and true, nothing made sense, suddenly with my heavy bleeding, insatiable appetite and highly driven slut attitude. Had I known what I know now, perhaps given the opportunity I would have made an effort to be flexing my sexual appetite with every second that passed. Needless to say my husband was a very happy man!

Currently times have changed, low sex drive, a feeling of indifference and little curiosity regarding my need to try some new fangled toy to assist with better and more intense orgasms. Now I’m lucky if I get an orgasm! But dammit I try, every weekend one night is dedicated to dressing for a night of romance, intimate chatter, perhaps an occasional helpful video and then a grab at the clitoral stimulator to get things charged up. No matter how long it takes if I’ve gotten that far along I will succeed!!!!!

If women of my age are finding the same experiences I would imagine that having sexual drive could in the very least help to persevere. I would gladly try a little gel of testosterone or the other product currently being tested by the FDA. I’m a newlywed for gods sake, I can’t just shrivel up and die I’ve got to seek anything that can revive and give me purpose. Let’s face it a fabulous orgasm can get the most depressed individual the will to live not to mention the aid to the neurotransmitters for lifting a blue season or winter.

In closing I’d be curious to hear from others like myself who are having difficulty now in their 50s. Would you be venturous enough to try a little help from a gel or pill to bring you excitement again?

Have you ever seen something that caught your eye and you obsess or fixate on it forever?

I adore hats! Fine or kinky millinery, accessories can make or break an ensemble. For fetish wear hats can complete a dominating look especially if the ensemble is military based.

You can bet that I’ll be adding to my collection of designer fetish wear a whole line of hats. Be they retro, tophat, newsboy, military or just plain wild, I will attempt to construct them with the usual “Lady L” flare.

I have not as of yet begun working with latex (as shown in the picutre) but I do love the appearance of rubber on anything related to fetish dressing. Trust me, latex IS fetish wear, only a lover of such a slippery skin tight textile would have a fetishist actually placing themselves into such a garment.

If you have suggestions or requests don’t hesitate to drop me a note!

Ten years ago I thought my life had ended, my husband of 20 years informed me one afternoon he wanted a divorce (right out of left field). I’m sure many of you will be thinking, oh there must have been clues you idiot that he didn’t want you anymore. I suppose there were, but I was too naive and injured emotionally to ever recognize the signs. Seriously? When you marry at a young age and just go through the motions without ever really digging into your relationships then you DESERVE the wake up call.

So the truth eventually revealed, he had already begun to fall in love with someone who worked for him, she was a cunning very calculating woman in need of baring children and he was handsome and successful. Com’on she wasn’t stupid, her steps to seal the deal had been practiced several times before with each of her last husbands that were nabbed away from their existing marriages. Suffices to say what an ordeal, messy, ugly, leaving no survivors in it’s wake. But here’s the kicker…….THE BEST HORRIBLE THING TO HAPPEN TO ME IN ALL MY LIFE!

For months I had tried to figure out the dynamics and where I failed (normal process) but it wasn’t till I met my future husband that the picture became clearer. Some may know already that I am a female Dominant, Dominatrix or Domme which ever title you prefer. But I did not recognize this right away, it took a slow process of awakening that summoned my defined social role. It’s not just a preference sexually, it’s  a personality that bleeds through your every pore in every action and step you make 24/7. Passivity isn’t an option at this stage of the game you know who and what you are and finally arriving in a place that defies your mortality is an “Ahhh Haaaa” moment.

How many of us become confused about where we fit into the big picture?  I believe right after college most of us stumble into humanity getting our first real job, clinching a relationship where marriage and children soon follow. Then the monotony soon ensues, the white picket fence, the soccer games and relentless holidays with extended family that you cannot tolerate, but do. How many of us sit quietly and ponder, who am I? I sure as hell didn’t! My life began strong, somewhat confidant with a goal and then marriage seemed logical. But what that marriage did to unravel every ounce of my character and compromising through countless negotiations, didn’t enlist any positive growth.

When I look back today I remember the dynamics of my relationship, I was the captain, charting each direction of our path, making the decisions  without being necessarily bitchy or over bearing. I received allot of flack from my husbands family at the time, calling me everything from a whore, to overbearing and controlling. Why they pigeon holed me in light of the matriarch being a mirror image of me has always been mystery. Never was I obnoxious, mean spirited or unbending EVER! I wanted so desperately to be accepted and loved I negotiated straight through that marriage to the point of mental disorders and barely functioning. But I guess there was jealousy, or plain stupidity and arrogance that drove these people and I’m happy to say they are out of my life (to a point) today.

Let’s look at the recipe here and pinpoint what I was missing all during that relationship. My husband was the youngest of three children, his siblings were female so he was the wonder boy according to his mother (the controlling and dominant one). My former husband was and is submissive, he always has been, his mother raised him that way. He married me to continue this dynamic due to my being dominant, when I began to falter, doubting and becoming ill, he began seeking someone else to fill that role. In fact as much as he would not admit he wanted to be humiliated, controlled and told what to do the rest of his life. Perhaps in a round about way, not really apparent to his immediate family and friends but the man was lost unless he had a strong female presence telling him when to jump and how high. He certainly got what he wanted, at age 55 he now has 5 male children, 3 with me and 2 new ones with his dominating wife. Is his life any better now than it was then? I doubt it.

Many never look at the deep inter workings of their relationships until it’s after the fact. There is no shame in being naturally submissive to another human. Look at Dogs, there has to be an alpha or the entire system would collapse. You may be a leader on the job, goal oriented and motivated but when it comes to making reservations at your spouses favorite restaurant for Valentines day, perhaps your spouse better make those reservations or you’ll never go out! Ask yourself, if she/he slapped my face (metaphorically or physically) does it really feel that bad? Or maybe it just makes me feel loved and understood. Know your role, define it, embrace it and relish knowing that’s one less mystery to be solved in your lifetime.

Typical scenario for an evening of “pleasure” is of course fun, laughter, learning product features and benefits and of course munching food with beverages. We have lingerie, shoes, jewelry and adult novelties, etc. Come play games, laugh, win prizes and generally yuck it up with us as we celebrate and learn the exciting future of Taboo Pleasures!

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So many of us in cyberspace are treading uncharted waters these days. We’re attempting to keep up with all the new resources in technology that barrage us each and everyday between the social networking to “smart phones” I’m left scratching my head wondering if I’ll drown or be on the edge of winning a medley?

I recently acquired a Blackberry Torch, it replaced a Samsung Blackjack that was completed outdated and quite frankly a pain in the ass. Thank God as time progresses so does tech friendly apparatus. The touch screen had me running in the other direction only due to anxiety of newness. A little voice in the back of my head asks “Can I do this”? or “should I quit now and dig my grave”?

Getting old during times where nimble working fingers rule can be enough to ask your friendly surgeon if they do hand transplants? Luckily many tech companies realize so many of us have limited dexterity and give us options such as the rolling ball, the slide out keyboard and voice commands. Yes, VOICE COMMANDS! That is if you can figure out how to work the damn app to find the button to give the command you want.

So I’m learning to use the new phone that can now connect my tweets, website, email and fellow friends that introduce themselves every time they stop by to read my blog. I’m still too old for all this and feel like a 90 year old that’s being yelled at by fellow drivers on the parkway telling me to “get off the road” Clearly someone of that age shouldn’t be driving and putting so many in imminent danger. So here I am on the cyber highway going slower than a turtle and wondering should I be here?

The confines of this blog within the Word Press system has each owner logging into our admin sections and approving every entry that is left as a comment which comprises of real comments or spam. I’ve been averaging about 10 comments per day and right now that’s manageable. But here’s the puzzle…..

Where the hell are you all coming from? My writing cannot be THAT interesting, you’ve left such wonderful kind remarks and I’m stunned to know why me? Yet when I search for other interesting blogs I cannot find anyone or any blog that I feel compelled to leave a comment in kind. What usually deters me is the 2 minutes of registry to leave that comment. Who has the time for that? I’ve got laundry, food prep, holiday crap, emails to answer, dogs to walk,  designs to sew, taxes, taxes, TAXES to calculate and I wonder….. how do you all do it?

So here is that classic Love/Hate relationship with the net, computers and keeping up with other E-commerce businesses. I’m so over whelmed sometimes I just want to scream at the screen with the hopes it will scream back with some kind of answer.

So many that comment have mentioned they “learn” something from my entry, really? I’m just pontificating on something I mostly pretend to know about just to fill the screen with words. Is there some kind of secret code I’m writing that I’m unaware of? I didn’t design my site, that was the work of Jeremy Selph (God love him) I couldn’t have done anything without him. He knew just how limited I was and automated almost everything for me to negotiate without major frustration.

If any of you out there can offer a clue, I’d surely appreciate any brief explanation as to what you’ve gotten from coming here and how you found me. I’ve asked this before, I’ll continue until I get an answer, then maybe I can really contribute something wise and wonderful to cyber blogging and the reason for executing this madness.

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Occasionally I will reward myself with an hour or two sitting in front of my computer, not downloading the 1236 product onto the website but for a click that bring up a mindless TV show that  might have been missed the night before. There are several shows I enjoy, Desperate Housewives (Fabulous writing, very tongue in cheek) Greys Anatomy (I’ve been there from the beginning I’m not gonna bale now!) but the show I can relate to is Brothers and Sisters. Yes all shows are on ABC, I seem to gravitate to that network maybe so that I don’t have to expend that extra effort to find the remote and change the channel!

I just finished watching this afternoon the episode from last night I missed where Nora Walker auditions to be a radio advice mom. The writing is so profound on this show I suspect because it plays and pulls on our hearts. I inevitably begin crying at some point during the episode depending upon the story line. Today was a tough one as I watched Nora giving advice albeit her own children who called in pretending to be listeners and  give Nora the feed or boost as she naturally offers her best solution.

There was a time I was Nora Walker, a mom who loved her children providing them the best pieces of her and loving every second. But as time went by, a nasty divorce after 20 years that ultimately lead to re-inventing myself and becoming the woman I am today.  There are no regrets, but there is still loss that never seems to heal, it might go away, get buried or temporarily get sucked up into the menopausal Alzeimer abyss, but it can resurface as it did today. My loss is mostly healed but there is still some left over.

I suppose if I hadn’t spoken with my youngest son earlier and learned of my ex welcoming into the world his 5th son, three I had with him and one other with his present wife, this latest TV episode wouldn’t have been so poignant. I miss my children, they are grown now as all do and naturally I had to let go, but something still feels missing. The oldest of my sons doesn’t speak to me unless he wants something, the middle son is well adjusted and working hard and the youngest Son thank God still calls regularly. But here I am writing and there is this huge lump in my throat, as if any minute if I reminisce for a split second the tears will come and I’ll be a puddle of mush. I’m a tough broad when need be but as a person and mother in general, I am sensitive and compassionate. Tears are my old friend that I welcome as naturally as sitting down to take a pee.

I watched Nora as she dished out her best advice, her family crumbles around her and she too is always evolving but the tone in her voice and the profound wisdom that comes from a woman having children is where I thought I’d be at this stage in the game.  ” There is an old saying” Nora states “You have to give up the life you planned to find the life that is waiting for you“.  Here I am swallowing hard that huge lump that still has not gone away. What truth is more profound when working through loss? You know you’ll never get back the dreams, the plans and the role you’d have in them, you simple let them go. Once that occurs something so magical begins to unfold and you’re transposed into another time and place making new plans, plans that work, that are real and in the moment. You’ve learned that living a life in the future produces the most excruciating disappointment as  the future never happens!

I do miss my children, I never thought I’d be so removed from their lives but life happens, we all move in different directions and living in the past holding on to nothing is worse than trying to live ahead in time. I can be thankful for so much of what I’ve got, it’s not the house or boat, the debt that has been paid off or even the countless collections of stuff you thought you needed and had to have. It’s for a love that is constant, another person that gets me and despite my children who might never understand my spouse or even like him for that matter, I love him with all my soul in part because he adores me and shows it everyday. Even with this clarity the lump still hasn’t gone away, perhaps when I’ve walked away from this computer and begin the treadmill I’ll begin to breathe normal and the tears will subside. I’m movin on, and who can blame me?

This is the life that was waiting for me all along…….

The “KITTEN” line of synthetic leather fetish apparel. These new styles will be a huge hit due to their ease in wear and care. We all love leather, but sometimes don’t you wish your favorite leather piece could be sent to the dry cleaners or washed in your own home machine?

This new line features nailhead trim, rivets, rings, zippers and any other interesting embellishment to make it seem fresh and new each time you put it on. Due to it’s cleaning flexibility of the garment, getting a bit more kinky has never been easier without the worry of protecting your beloved sexy ensemble.

All styles feature fire engine red linings, backing and piping to compliment the leather look and vamp the appearance without the price tag of genuine leather. In a few weeks look in our store under WOMEN’S APPARELyou’ll immediately recognize its signature upscale design.

For further information please visit www.Allurelingerie.com and view “Kitten”

Remember Taboo Pleasures prides itself on fabulous pricing, if you find any garment for less than what we offer you, contact us! We do our best to make YOU, our preferred long time customer!

Happy Fall to you!

Lady L

I’ll add much more to this post, for now it’s being used more as a test…… Thanks for your patience!

Lady L